Sex Exposed

People are always going on and on about the limits on sloppy seconds- that is, on dating someone who has happened to have a past. I always thought this was absurd personally, but lets take a look at what truly should be the limits between circle-dating:

What is this? Seriously, “what is this?” Are you semi-interested because of boredom? …good looks? …fat pay cheque? …did you hear they’re great in the sack? WHAT IS THIS? Intention is always the truth behind any situation no matter what the action! …remember this 😉

If there is genuine interest because the thought or sight of them makes you feel like butterflies are getting a ride ON a rollercoaster IN your belly, then you can move on to question two.

Is there any bad blood? In the words of Oasis, “Whats the story Morning Glory?”  Did this adorable creature rip your friend’s heart out and spit on it when they were done? Did they cheat, steal, maim, or plunder? ( yes, I’m aware that a few of those words mean the same thing… but, aren’t they just fabulous?!). This is a character question. We all have the capability of being less-than-nice but character always shows through. If your would-be-love has acted like a dirty rotten scoundrel, chances are they will do it again to you. Furthermore, is hurting your friend and possibly ruining your friendship worth a little wayward interest? I don’t think so.

Now, for those once in a lifetime needs that bring you to cross the line upon taking a friends ex, one word : Tact. Write it, practice it, confront them with it. Be kind. Depending on the depth of their past relationship, it can be hard to move past this “betrayal”. Even if it was one date, you need to have a kind conversation with them beforehand…not after. While going on one date could seem harmless to you this could equal a loss of trust between your friend and yourself.

Now, to my personal take:

“Be kind, rewind”

“Another man’s trash is another man’s treasure.

Basically, I believe that good men should be shared! I’m not talking menage-a-trois, I’m merely pointing out that if it didn’t work out between me and an amazing guy doesn’t mean that it can’t work out between him and my friend… I encourage it! I even try to set up my exes with my friends. If it was a deep love with a lot of scars however, tie me up… give me a shot of something calm… call the cops before I end up in jail! Kidding… well, kinda 😉

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