Sex Exposed

We’ve all heard angry rejection stories from those who just can’t read signals. The fact is that most of these stories come from men. Why? Well, it could be a couple reasons…

1) Men just approach more often. They tend to make the first move.

2) Men aren’t as good at reading body language as women are.

These are both right. Men have been socialized to act first- to be the aggressor. I myself never fell into the timid woman category- which is probably why I’m writing this blog to begin with! Women are also classified to be better between the sexes at communicating. We are master communicators with all kinds of “secret” unspoken words to send messages to each other and, quite frankly, this confuses the hell out of men. In the world of meeting, dating, love, and sex, communication is always key to getting to the next level. But, lets get down to the basics; we’ve all heard the complaints from that one guy friend we have about how some b*tch made him feel like a loser. Well, lol, rejection doesn’t feel awesome but it’s how you read the situation while it’s happening and how you react that truly makes you a loser. Most of these “loser” friends tell stories in scenarios where they approach a woman… try to engage in conversation and ultimately she ends this conversation. Not a terribly complicated scenario is it? And, in most cases, the “she” does not deserve to be called the big “B”-word. What I normally do when I’m faced with the world is ending rants like “there are no more good girls/guys!”, “All men are scum!”, or the ever-classy “All women are gold-diggers!” comments is outline a few facts to try to urge this rooftop-yelper towards the next big boy/big girl step of life.  My workbook goes as follows:

How did it start?

-Were there multiple points of eye contact?

No? They weren’t interested.

-Did they squirm or in any way, shape or form try to remove themselves from your stare or proximity?

If the answer is yes, they weren’t interested.

-When you engaged them in conversation did they look away or around more than once?

If this answer is yes then they avoided eye contact with you in the first place, or they never made any at all. They probably even tried to run from you in some way shape or form!Did they head in the direction of the ladies room? Point made. Furthermore, they were looking around in this step because they are either too embarrassed to be speaking with you, they are uncomfortable in rejecting you, they are looking for someone they may be interested in or looking for a friend for help, or finally, last but definitely the absolute cake topper: they are searching the room for their significant other who will definitely be embarrassing you in a couple of minutes!

The kiss

If you want to kiss them and they are doing any of the above, ABORT ABORT!!

There you have it; signals to live by…or die by, I mean, be embarrassed by.

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