The Big ‘O’ Inconsistencies
Passionate moans, screaming names, scratches down his back. The lamp has gotten in the way several times over and as a result has met an untimely death on the bedroom floor. Finally, her climax is met with she-wolf screams which surely scare the crap out of the neighbours kid; she has climaxed, orgasmed, came, and sang on the mountain top. Now, after watching movies- surely made by men, depicting this other-worldly response to an ‘O’, I am left wondering: how can I ever compare to that?!
Hollywood has brainwashed us! Ya, that’s right; brainwashed us. How many men and women have watched an episode of Sex and The City and thought that they could never amount to facilitating or delivering one of Samantha’s over-the-top orgasm’s? This is not a common conversation out of a relationship- confessing your fear of thinking that your partner may not truly be satisfied. But does this kind of satisfaction exist? Can the everyday orgasm be surpassed daily? Weekly? Annually? Ever? The answer is… yes and no. Sorry for the confusion.
A woman’s body is complicated. Much more complicated than a man’s. Firstly, an orgasm starts in her head (so does seduction by the way…). We always have a million thoughts going through our heads- not nearly as exciting as what we could be thinking about…but thoughts none the less. Part of the big ‘O’ secret is concentrating on the now. Think about it- exclusively and you’re almost there. I practice mental degredation- seriously! I tell myself to shut up and I push out my thoughts on what I forgot on my grocery list… ten seconds later and I put a smack down on my internal alarm reminding me that I have to put clothes in the dryer.
Now? Position. Every woman’s got one- that sure bet. Of course, every position has it’s angle and she has to know that too.
Don’t forget a cooperative partner. This is the be-it and end-all. There’s nothing worse than finding that spot, working on it, and having your partner start moving on a groove all of his own! Let the woman work people!!! May I recommend yelling at them to stop moving? ; ) …well, perhaps that’s too harsh. Be direct, aka: “stop moving”. Simple yet straight to the point.
Toys! Yes, that’s right; toys. A vibrator can work wonders when your body just doesn’t seem to respond to anything else. And yes, this is normal. Women have crazy hormones that change and demand different kinds of attention around our cycles. Sometimes, it is IMPOSSIBLE to cum! This is ok too. Enjoy the moment. Understand that for a lady, it doesn’t always happen. If both of you are present in the moment and are Ken’s to each other’s Barbies (circa 1982- before Ken came out) then -all is well and both are happy. Whether you end with a Samantha- climax, a regular one, or just some nice orgasmless sex, all is still well in the universe. After some post-coital cuddle time, you- like me, are free to finish your laundry and look forward to the next sexy-time.
Be well and be a giver ; )
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