Sex Exposed

Just the fear it evokes can be enough of a reason to avoid discussion of it completely. You’ve got it: marriage =P

While it is true that it is a romantic ideal… to meet that perfect someone who EVERYTHING works perfectly with…you marry and live happily ever after…

The reality is… that that is far and few in-between. Marriage is not what it used to be… that is a good thing. Today we have choices. Our options run from everything in who we date, contraceptives, what we wear, being single, having sex! …Now these may not seem like a big deal- but they are! People are being killed for making any of these decisions in places around the world today. Which is maybe why so many of us are waiting to get married…not getting married…even divorcing!

Why does the “M” word evoke fear??? Well… it’s the fear of what WILL BE. Men and women both worry about how it will change their relationship; will sex be boring and awful? Will the romance be lost? Will he/she shit with the door open?…Which then begs the questions: When is it ok to fart infront of your partner? Is there a quotient? Per day? Per week? Per HOUR??? But, the worst and most haunting fear there is, is… Will I find someone better?

Don’t cringe… you know you’ve thought about it too! And… what’s worse is that it is a perfectly valid thought… and the stats are that YES, you probably will or can find someone better. With over 30 million people in Canada… and over 7 billion in the world… chances are that the “love of your life”- who is probably 1 out of only 30 or so people you’ve dated throughout the years… is not best-suited for you.

So then, I ask: why do people get married?

It comes down to many things… kids. I’m impartial to them myself but some people are crazy to gain the weight, lose sleep, clean shitty-asses that aren’t their own, undergo financial losses, and put themselves and their partners last simply because there is not enough time in the day….

Financial stability. Life is hard. We live in a capitalist society where feudalism is ALIVE! We pay the government to loan land which is never really ours… we pay for food… water…everything. Having a partner lightens the load and the pressure.

The fantasy. Many marry for the fantasy of pure true love…the nuclear family dream. They may not truly even love you… just the dream of it all. The partner, the house, the cottage, the snot-nosed kids, the golden retriever… These are the most dangerous of individuals because they will never be satisfied and they will never stick by through a life of reality; life is full of ups and downs and real people with imperfections. Count them off as a write-off and move on…

The ring, the wedding, the pressure… awful or great- depending on the way you look at it. The fact of the matter is that everyone has their own expectations and dreams and it usually comes down to the squeekier wheel getting the grease 😉

Getting married shouldn’t be a compromise; It should be a desire. With that being said, it IS a contract. A contract which protects your future. People ruin things with decisions and attitudes- they can also make them awesome. Marriage is a commitment of time- not a commitment of happiness.

The “M” word evokes fear- and justly so, because you never know how it’s going to go!

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